The Life and Times of a Queer Chef.

Well, its been a while..

Sat, 19 Apr 2008 22:26:26 GMT

...so I thought I'd better update & say hi to y'all..

So I'm going to Spain in May with my good friend Nicole. We're gonna stay with my parents, which should be entertaining to say the least..

I'm singing in a band now.. we're called "The Hollow League", and we've got a MySpace page : http://www.myspace.com/hollowleague

Went to Rockys recently & had a fab time..

This is Nicole, Jo and myself..

Similar, but with li'l Jess at the front..

This, obviously, is me enjoying myself!!

Oh, and here's a pic taken recently of Jo & I:

She thinks it's cute.. :)

Fun at the spinning wheel..

Tue, 11 Mar 2008 03:03:37 GMT

Here's a couple of pics from last Monday night at The Spinning Wheel bar.. I was supposed to compete in the Karaoke final, but it was postponed due to the storm warning!!

Jo.. I do love her hair that colour..

Me.. too cool for school!

L-R: Nicole, Nick, Vicky and Max

The finals will now be next week.. I can't wait!!

Finally back!

Wed, 27 Feb 2008 11:32:43 GMT

Online again! Yay! I've moved to my new flat, and just got my broadband set up!

Life update..

Tue, 12 Feb 2008 00:54:18 GMT

So, I reckon it's time for a life update.. much has been happening!   Still no Boyfriend :-(, but I'm keeping my hopes high... supposed to be going to a good party on the 16th, one that shows some promise! I do worry, though, that because I'm quite straight acting I don't ping enough peoples "gaydar". OK, so I wear some pretty outrageous gear, but really I'm not particularly camp in my mannerisms at all.

Jo isn't very well atm, but hopefully she'll be ok by saturday (she's the one taking me to this party).

Danny has FINALLY finished his novel; he's currently reading it through and will send me a copy to proof read soon.

Stevie has decided to stay in New Zealand for the time being.. **sigh** I really miss her and Stu sometimes.

My sister is getting married in June!! Yay! The only downside to that is that my parents and grandmother will be there.

Oh, I've found a new, bigger, apartment! I'm gonna be moving in on the 20th! It's really nice, much more space, new carpets etc..

I went to the Karaoke again on Monday (sang "Bat Out of Hell" and "Holiday") It seems to be becoming a regular thing,. anyway, there was this guy there who was with some friends of friends, and he was Really cute... didn't get his name though, and I don't know if he even noticed me much (see my point above) :-(. Definitely gay tho'.   Who knows, he may be there next week :D.

Anyway, that's about it... I'll try to get some new pics up soon!

Funny Man!

Fri, 08 Feb 2008 23:07:16 GMT

Hey, Jabez! Just to say Hi if u read this! ;-)

Finally!!

Thu, 31 Jan 2008 23:27:44 GMT

Finally, a good week! Had a lot of fun on Monday night at a karaoke night at one of my favourite bars (The Spinning Wheel); I sang "Boulevard of Broken Dreams" by Green Day..

Also been invited to some parties.. One particularly good one on 16th Feb.. it's a Valentines party, hopefully packed with fit guys.. ;-)

So, all's good! Yay!

More to life....

Fri, 18 Jan 2008 20:03:45 GMT

OK.. so I'm feeling quite stupidly depressed today. Went to Exeter with Jo & Tanya last night to see Athlete. Just as we were about to go in, however, I got the onset symptoms of a full blown migraine, and had to bug out. Started feeling better this afternoon, and now i'm up and about.

So that pissed me off to start with. I phoned my parents this afternoon, which was, as usual, really frustrating, coz I couldn't be myself, not really.

I currently have less than zero money, so I'm stuck in my craptacular flat with only myself for company - ok, so I try doing all the things that make me feel better (going online and chatting, reading stuff, watched a film etc etc..), but I'm just still feeling really depressed, and dare I say it, more than a bit lonely. Bugger, now I sound like a total loser.

It's times like this when I wish I had a steady boyfriend.. you know, someone to lean on when u feel like crap.. unfortunately, meeting new people often involves going out, which, in turn, involves spending money.. which I don't have. Also, the Gay scene around here is abysmally insular and cliquey.. Theres,like, 1 club, 1 bar and that's it.. Besides, I hate the generic music and chavvy style, which is all they seem to like.

Anyway, just thought i'd spill all that on here in a vain attempt to feel better.. **sighs**

So, if any of you know any single, attractive, fun gay guys, let me know, huh!

Road Trip... some pics

Sat, 12 Jan 2008 20:12:40 GMT

OK, just got back from my road trip, soooo.. here's some pics:

This is me with my sister, Ali and my niece, Autumn!!

This is Ali, Autumn, and my soon-to-be brother-in-law Andy.

AAnd this is just me with Autumn. More pics to follow soon..

Fave Stuff (at the mo')

Fri, 28 Dec 2007 01:11:12 GMT

Soooo.. heres another list of my fave stuff, all recommended for either watching, listening to, wearing or reading! -

Anything by The Birthday Massacre or Shiny Toy Guns. I'm speechless at how good this music is..

Slash and all its weirdness!!! :=]

Prince of Tennis - Japanese Anime that is just about the Gayest thing in existence.

Leather Bangles and Bracelets - I just can't get enough of these at the moment for some reason! XD

Rude t-shirts - because I'm going through some sort of "shock people" phase!

Angel - Because Boreanaz is soooooooo hot. (not to mention James Marsters)

So there you go... a little glimpse into my head! :)))

Xmas.. Not fun if you're working.

Wed, 26 Dec 2007 01:36:37 GMT

Finally finished working at 2.00 Xmas day. If I ever see another turkey, it'll be 2 billion years too soon. Might actually have some free time now.

Ouch!

Tue, 11 Dec 2007 23:01:55 GMT

Had a wisdom tooth out today. I hate dentists :=( Going to take Nicole to the gym tomorrow. Bet I can't keep up with her!

Hi Nic!

Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:29:34 GMT

Nicole is a great aussie lass and bar-person at work. I said i'd give her a mention. I'll add a photo asap.

New Piercing!!

Wed, 05 Dec 2007 15:40:03 GMT

Got my right ear pierced yesterday!... just because i could!

u can just see it there... sorry, my camera is craptacular.

Unbelievable!

Sun, 02 Dec 2007 19:18:06 GMT

Went out to a straight club last night with Jo, Tanya & Grace. We visited a club called "play", which is the current name for a venue which, over the years has had many names. And Unbelievably, they still play the same cheesy music, along with Banging dance tracks (which, really, I hate). eg bloody "Living on a Prayer", "Summer of 69" and "Don't You Want Me Baby" were all present and correct. Now I remember why I can't stand those places. ANYWAY, we dance like idiots and generally had a lot of fun, until I got fed up with some mad girl who wouldn't stop coming on to me, even after I told her I was gay. Got home at 3.30am, Jo stayed over and we crashed almost immediately. Then I had to be at workfor 9! So what an Immensely fun day I've had, trying to stay awake and focused. Anyway, here's a pic:

Grace (left) & Jo, gurning at Woody's, Torquay.

Interesting times

Thu, 29 Nov 2007 23:23:33 GMT

I think my life is finally becoming more interesting... I'm going out more, meeting more people, and generally having more fun. hmmm.

TG Comic

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 00:24:58 GMT

Here's a link to a charming TG comic i found, called "Between the Lines"

Great stuff!

Quotes..

Mon, 26 Nov 2007 23:13:52 GMT

Here are some of my favourite quotes......

"Please allow me to introduce myself, I'm a man of Wealth & Taste.." -The Rolling Stones

"It's a pair of kinky-boot-beasts! Preparing to Attack!" - Paul McCartney & Ringo Star, from "Yellow Submarine"

"Oh, I'm sorry. [picks up megaphone, and switches it on] How would you like to SUCK MY BALLS, Mr Garrison?" .. Eric Cartman

"Tonight you can dream, boy, imagine a whisper, if you can keep secrets, then I'll tell you mine..." - The Birthday Massacre, from "To Die For".

"How can I get this off my hand without upseting my cool, calm exterior?" - Fox Mulder

.. I've got loads, but I think that's enough for now!

Just thought I'd share this with all of you!

depressed......

Sun, 25 Nov 2007 20:26:01 GMT

Feeling quite down today.. **sigh**. All my friends are away, and I'm bored AND skint. At least Jo gets back from London tomorrow.

Sat, 24 Nov 2007 01:53:38 GMT

I am the girl kicked out of her home because I confided in my mother that I am a lesbian.
I am the prostitute working the streets because nobody will hire a transsexual woman.
I am the sister who holds her gay brother tight through the painful, tear-filled nights.
We are the parents who buried our daughter long before her time.
I am the man who died alone in the hospital because they would not let my partner of twenty-seven years into the room.
I am the foster child who wakes up with nightmares of being taken away from the two fathers who are the only loving family I have ever had. I wish they could adopt me.
I am one of the lucky ones, I guess. I survived the attack that left me in a coma for three weeks, and in another year I will probably be able to walk again.
I am not one of the lucky ones. I killed myself just weeks before graduating high school. It was simply too much to bear.
We are the couple who had the realtor hang up on us when she found out we wanted to rent a one-bedroom for two men.
I am the person who never knows which bathroom I should use if I want to avoid getting the management called on me.
I am the mother who is not allowed to even visit the children I bore, nursed, and raised. The court says I am an unfit mother because I now live with another woman.
I am the domestic-violence survivor who found the support system grow suddenly cold and distant when they found out my abusive partner is also a woman.
I am the domestic-violence survivor who has no support system to turn to because I am male.
I am the father who has never hugged his son because I grew up afraid to show affection to other men.
I am the home-economics teacher who always wanted to teach gym until someone told me that only lesbians do that.
I am the man who died when the paramedics stopped treating me as soon as they realized I was transsexual.
I am the person who feels guilty because I think I could be a much better person if I did not have to always deal with society hating me.
I am the man who stopped attending church, not because I don't believe, but because they closed their doors to my kind.
I am the person who has to hide what this world needs most, love.
I am the person who is afraid of telling his loving Christian parents he loves another male.
Re-post this if you believe homophobia is wrong. Please do your part to end it.

Heaven!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Fri, 23 Nov 2007 23:37:49 GMT

I'm so Jealous! Jo has got the weekend off from work. She's going up to London to stay with her cousin, and guess where they're going..... Only the best gay club in Britain!!! HEAVEN!!!!!.

Have a look,...... http://www.heaven-london.com/

She's promised to bring me back a pressie, hopefully a t-shirt. I hope she has fun, because then we can go in the New Year when I have some time off.

GRRRR....

Fri, 23 Nov 2007 00:35:40 GMT

OK, so I started answering some interesting questions on Yahoo Answers, in particular in the LGBT section, answering anything intelligent or interesting. (Late Nite Boredom Activity). I found, whilst surfing, a startling amount of homophobia, bigotry and predjudice, not to mention some religious fanaticism bordering on madness! These "Trolls" seemed to enjoy posting negative comments on many LGBT questions in an offensive and negative manner for example,

This was the question:

"This is more of an opinion based 'question' - so make your opinions ...
Anyway, this 'question' is actually sparked by 'just a girl' who recently made reference to Sodom and Gomorrah in a question.
I would love to tell 'just a girl' the actual story so that you don't keep embarrasing yourself.
Lot's guests (angels) were demanded by the local men, and it's not that the angels were male that was important, what was really important was that they were his GUESTS. Read Leviticus and you will find out that one of the most important laws for the Jews at that time was the rule of hospitality. The angels were GUESTS and the hosts dared to attack their guests.
People overtime were looking for ways to criminalise gay people and made up the whole sodomite story. It is not a story about homosexuality, it is a story about hospitality.

Hope this helps

What are people's views?"

A user calling himself "lion of JUDAH", then posted the following response:

"Leveticus tells us about the moral laws that we should adhere to.The crimes homosexuals commit are the same as those committed by rapists and paedeophiles,that of perverse carnal lust.While we all(well most all of us commit a sin of lust) are guilty of sinning, homosexual acts as well as paedeophillic acts,are according to the perpetrators not their fault,their creator made them like that.Whereas he made most of us normal(cue 50 responses of"wot is normal" ie raping children is not normal)did that mean he made homosexuals un normal?No,they choose a life of wickedness as did the inhabbitants of sodom and gommora,which as my Rasta bretheren above says so is babylon,the same as a rapist or violent person learns or decides to become a rapist or a thug so does a homosexual decide right from wrong."

I then felt the need to get on a soapbox, so this was my response:

"[braces for hatemail]
Let's face it, to any rational minded person, who's not supportive of stoning/burning/turning to salt/various other nasty deaths, most of the bible is utter twaddle. In fact, religion in general pisses me off. It causes more wars, hatred, intolerance and general bigotry than anything else on this planet.

Also, most of the damn trolls on this site seem to like to use it as an excuse for their tunnelvisioned crazy rants.

So, to answer your question,.... who cares? Whether or not I agree with your view isn't going to change the moral & intellectual naiivety of the fanatical minority, is it? (see "lion of JUDAH"'s response above for a great example of this)

I'm Gay. Period. I fancy guys. I choose to, and I stand by this. No-one on or off this planet/plane of existence has any damn business telling me what I can and can't do, as long as I'm not harming anyone. And don't compare me to bloody rapists and paedophiles (again, see above). It's downright offensive.

[ends rant, steps off soap box]"

Ridiculous, isn't it?

Then I thought about it for a bit and got to wondering why so many of these idiots like to hang around the LGBT area and offend us all... repressed homosexuality? Insecurity? Inferiority complex? All of the above?.... quite possibly.

Me again!

Thu, 22 Nov 2007 00:02:42 GMT

Yes, me in another arty mirror pic. I guess I'm a bit of an attention whore!

Hairdo!!!

Wed, 21 Nov 2007 17:05:02 GMT

Check out my new 'doo:

Sis!

Wed, 21 Nov 2007 01:46:42 GMT

Say hi to my sis, Ali! (with Autumn)

Awwwwwww...

Wed, 21 Nov 2007 01:28:30 GMT

This is my niece, Autumn... Awww, Cute!

She was born at the end of September. I'm gonna visit in the New Year!